The"American Wisdom Series"

Pamphlet #2616
The Epistle of 1st Peter chapter 3

"Ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands..."
Does that mean you should always give your husband the remote control when he wants it?

So conduct is important, very important!

If you are not a "doer" of the word, then you are just kidding yourself.

That's what Peter has been telling us and so says James in James 1:22, "But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves."

Many think they must "preach" in order to plant seeds, but guess what?

You are literally planting seeds just by walking in the Lord through the field [world]!

And you don't even have to say a word.

Your conduct speaks and testifies!

You know, actions speak louder than words.

You see, "actions", shall we dare say "works", confirm the Word of God in us.

People can tell by our actions!

So Peter continues in chapter 3 with the subject of Christian conduct and now he brings it right into our homes, into our living rooms.

You've heard the phrase "Practice what you preach"?

Well Peter has a method which we will call "Practice and don't preach".

Ladies first of course.

So ladies, here's how you might convert your husbands!

1 Peter 3:1
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
"Ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands..." This means to always give your husband the remote control when he wants it.

Actually, if you are a Christian woman you will completely understand this verse in context and know that it has nothing to do with inequality, spiritually or otherwise.

But if you are a "feminazi", a hater of men, you'll be jumping up and down screaming "the Bible is chauvinistic".

But what Peter is saying in verse 1 is that "Actions can and do speak louder than words".

You may have tried and tried the old preaching method on your "sinner" but he's still a fisher of fish.

It's time to stop trying to convince him with words and give him a demo, a living demonstration of how Christianity works.

(Start by giving him the remote control when he wants it, heh, heh.)

So be a "doer of the Word" and start walking the walk instead of talking the talk.

And you know what?

Whenever a person changes his or her behavior it has a profound impact on those around them.

And the closer their relationships to you, the more they will notice and be impacted.

[2] While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
You won't have say a word.

"Conversation" is more correctly translated "conduct" or "behavior", and "fear" means "revere" or "reverence".

[3] Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
This verse does not mean that a woman should not wear makeup or jewelry, both of which are fine if done in good taste.

Paul says in 1 Timothy just don't dress up like a harlot.

What Peter is saying is that a Christian woman's true beauty is not seen in her outward appearance.

It's not that "skin deep" beauty that makes her glow.

It's not the gold that you see on her ears and fingers that make her beautiful, it's the shekinah diamonds on her heart.

[4] But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
Her beauty comes from within.

She glows from the heart as her pearls of wisdom and meekness and kindness and gentleness adorn her spiritual body, her inner being.

Paul used the term "Gospel Armour" to describe the protective qualities of the Word so let's use the term "Gospel Jewels" to describe the beauty of a Christian woman.

So put on the Gospel Jewels.

For as Peter says in the last part of verse 4, they are beautiful and priceless in the sight of God, and your husband will love them, too!

They will both recognize what a true "Gem" you are.

Note: This could perhaps give new meaning to the term "family jewels".

[5] For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
There is "nothing new under the sun".

The women of God have always been adorned within.

It comes from trusting in God... and giving your husband the remote control.

1 Pet. 3:6 Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
Of course Sarah was not only a beautiful person from within, she was a real "looker", too!

Do you remember when she and Abraham traveled to Gerar and Abimilech, the king of Gerar, looked upon her and wanted her?

I believe she was even 60 years old at the time.

She obviously took care of herself on the outside as well, and so should we all.

What does the phrase "and are not afraid with any amazement" mean?

Before we discuss it, let's look at another translation:

"And you are now her true daughters if you do right and let nothing terrify you - not giving way to hysterical fears or letting anxieties unnerve you." (Amplified Bible)
How do you react when your kid spills orange juice on your carpet?

Do you get hysterical and yell at him or her?

Do you "major" in minor things?

That's what Peter is talking about, i.e. your behavior at home as a Christian woman.

Note: Because of the society we live in, this verse tends to remind us that there are many women who live in fear and terror of an abusive husband. No woman, Christian or otherwise, needs to or should put up with someone who beats her. There are support groups and civil agencies that can and should be contacted to stop such abuse.

[7] Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
"Likewise, ye husbands"?

Uh, oh!

I get the feeling I'm going to have to give the remote back.

"Dwell with them" [and put up with them... Peter wasn't married, or was he?
Anyway, he spent a lot time with fish, who don't talk back.] "according to knowledge", i.e. with common sense and wisdom.

Editors note: Peter was maried. See Mark 1: 29-31

I hope Peter isn't including "logic" in the term "knowledge".

I've tried logic but it doesn't seem to work.

(Boy, I'm making friends now, aren't I?) "Giving honour unto the wife" [not to mention giving her a $50 bill, works wonders sometimes too], "as unto the weaker vessel".

She and I both know that women can't lift as much as men, but by dwelling with her in knowledge, I now know not to discuss this subject.

OK, that's enough.

I hope you all know by now that sometimes I jest and get carried away.

I don't mean to take anything away at all from what Peter is saying.

On the contrary, the fact is that we are real people and what Peter is talking about gets right down to the spilled juice and the remote control levels of our lives.

It is God's will that we be "heirs together in the grace of life", i.e. that we enjoy life together and receive His blessings.

If there is constant bickering and fighting between you and your husband then it creates a bunch of static on your prayer transmission line and God doesn't like listening to a bunch of static.

So He might not!

That's what it means, "Your prayers are hindered".

And guess what?

You can't bicker and fight with someone who won't bicker and fight back, can you?

[8] Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:
So if you are married then have a harmonic convergence.

Share all the "jewels" together, spiritual and otherwise.

By the way, the word "pitiful" means "kind".

"Ok, Ok, we'll even share the remote control.

How about you hold it and I'll push the buttons?

That seems logical to me!"

[9] Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.
We're talking about married people here, not about civil law and ordinances like an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.

If you are married, God wants to bless your marriage but you must do it His way.

No bickering and fighting and ranting and raving and getting hysterical and calling each other names, etc., etc.!

Got it?

You were called to be a blessing to others, including and especially your spouse, and you will be blessed if you are.

One more time.

You were called to be a blessing to others, including and especially your spouse, and you will be blessed if you are.

Because your prayers won't be hindered and your marriage will be blessed.

"Be ye all of one mind" (vs. 8).

"I knew you'd see it Peter's way, honey!


I love you!"

Click, click, click, click, click...

Do you know who you are?

Do you really know who you are?

So you say you are a child of the Living God?

Well, if you've ever had children and one of them threw a tantrum or behaved poorly in public then you know how embarrassing that can be.

Yes, the behavior of children is reflective upon their parents.

So if we say that we are children of God, then we "represent" the family of God and our behavior is reflective upon Him.

Now no one is more qualified to discuss this matter of behavior than Mr. Animation himself, the apostle Peter.

And he has been telling us why and how we should conduct ourselves as good citizens, as good employees, as loving husbands and wives, etc.

He has told us that our futures as God's elect are magnificent and until we receive our unfathomable inheritance, while we are here sojourning in flesh tabernacles, we need to be kind, generous, and forgiving and learn to put away petty differences and stop getting excited over stupid petty things.

And now Peter tells us that the choice is ours.

1 Peter 3:10
For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile:
The condition is "Will you love life?"

Do you love life?

Or as the great Mahja Rushie would say, "Are you having more fun than a human being should be allowed to have?"

 You can you know!

Especially as a Christian with the unfair advantage of knowing what is going on in the world.

Do you want to see good days?

It is a choice, says Peter.

Then knock off the cynicism, the criticism, the bickering and the guile, all of which are negative spirits.

[11] Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.
Decide today to eschew evil and go do something worthwhile and enjoyable, something good. (I thought "eschew" was what you said when you sneeze but it means to shun, to decline, to avoid.)

Tell the next person who whines to you that if they would like to dump their garbage in your living room that would be ok, but they may not dump their garbage in your mind.

In fact, make up a sign that reads "WHINING - $5.00 Charge" and hang it up.

Peter says seek peace and seek serenity and "ensue it", which means "go for it".

So go have a good day!

[12] For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil.
And why not go have a good day?

The Lord watches over us and His ears are open to our prayers.

All we have to do is try and be willing.

Of course none of us is perfect and we will occasionally "lose it" and even get "down in the dumps" a little.

And we know from the Book of Ecclesiastes that we will have some bad days and some good days.

Live Link to- Ecclesiastes Chapter 3

But they don't have to come from our own making by harboring such evil things as envy and jealousy and contention and strife!

"Eschew!" God Bless You.

Stand against all those things and follow that which is good.

[13] And who is he that will harm you, if ye be followers of that which is good?
They will bounce off the Gospel Armour like ping pong balls.

After all, the Gospel Armour is designed to withstand fiery darts traveling at the speed of fake light.

1 Pet. 3:14 But and if ye suffer for righteousness' sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled;
What, me worry?

Who cares what others think or say?

And don't be intimidated by their ranting and raving.

And don't "buy into it"!

"Eschew!" God Bless You!

[15] But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:
This verse is the key as to how to "suffer" for righteousness sake and how to end up doing the right thing, which is a righteous act.

The word "sanctify" means to separate or set aside, as in making place or room for Jesus Christ in your heart, which means in your mind.

The more you pray and study His Word, the more room you give Him so that when persecution or false accusation, i.e. the opportunity to do the right thing, presents itself to the nuclear reactor of your mind, there He may appear also to prevent a meltdown of your character and conduct as a Christian.

Because when there's a meltdown, there's a long and arduous clean-up process to follow.

And you must also sanctify the Lord God in your mind if you are to do as Peter instructs in the second half of this verse and "be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear".

[16] Having a good conscience; that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ.
Keep your nose clean and always try to maintain your credibility so that you have a clear conscience.

You see, your accusers will ultimately be ashamed of their unfounded and undeserved condemnation of your Christian conduct.

When will that be?

When they suddenly realize what a great person "you" really are?


When they finally hit bottom and realize what great sinners "they" really are.

And your conduct just might have been the good "work" that helped them see "hope", i.e. that there is better way of life.

And the connection will be from your conduct to Jesus Christ.

And as Peter says in verse 15, if and when they come to you and ask you "a reason of the hope that is in you", be ready and skilful enough in the Word to give them an answer.

And the answer is Him, the Living and the Written Word of God.

As Christians we must be able to lead them to Him.

It's part of the job description as one of God's elect, one of the chosen generation, one of the royal priesthood, which you are, remember (1 Pet. 2:9)?

So do as Paul says in 2 Tim. 2:15 "Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth."

Go for it!

1 Pet. 3:17 For it is better, if the will of God be so, that ye suffer for well doing, than for evil doing.
Peter said this very same thing back in 1 Peter 2:20 "For what glory is it, if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently?

but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God."

Here again Peter gives us the reason and the example set forth as to why we should suffer for righteousness sake.

[18] For Christ also hath once suffered for sins, the Just for the unjust, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh, but quickened by the Spirit:
Why did Jesus Christ, the just and innocent Son of God, suffer for sins?


That He might bring us to God.

And He has!

So you do know who you are!

We have learned a great deal so far from the Big Fisherman in this chapter 3 of 1st Peter.

He has given us much detail and examples of how to conduct ourselves in a godly manner with specific instruction to always follow Christ and the examples He set forth.

The remainder of chapter 3 contains some in-depth teaching.

We should be reminded that this book is written to God's elect, who having eyes to see and ears to hear, means that they can see past the traditions of men.

Let's review verse 18 of chapter 3.

1 Pet. 3:18 For Christ also hath once suffered for sins, the Just for the unjust, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh, but quickened by the Spirit:
We know that Jesus Christ was crucified in the flesh, but let's consider two questions:

(1) Was Jesus ever non-existent?

(2) Was He ever unconscious, meaning He was "nowhere" for the 3 days and 3 nights He was in the tomb?

The answer to both questions is no!

He was God incarnate, i.e. dwelling in the flesh.

And He has always existed and always will, and has NEVER stopped existing!

Here are Christ's own words:

Rev. 1:8
I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the ending, saith the Lord, which is, and which was, and which is to come, the Almighty.
So let's not be blinded and believe that while Jesus was in that tomb for three days and three nights He was "nowhere".

He had to be somewhere because He was alive, right?

And you can be certain He didn't just sit around on the rock slab and play solitaire until it was time to roll back the stone.

So where did He go and what did He do?

Well, we know where He wasn't!

We know that He hadn't yet ascended to the Father and taken the seat at His right hand because He said to Mary in John 20:17:

John 20:17
Jesus saith unto her, Touch me not; for I am not yet ascended to my Father: ...
So again: Where did He go?

Peter tells us in verse 19.

1 Peter 3:19
By which also He went and preached unto the spirits in prison;
"By which" continues from verse 18 and means in the condition of spirit, not flesh.

So while He was in the tomb, "He went and preached unto the spirits in prison."

What spirits and what prison is Peter talking about?

Let's look at the word prison.

prison: phulake, foo-lak-ay', Greek 5438; from Greek 5442 (phulasso); a guarding or (concrete guard), the act, the person; figurative the place, the condition, or (special) the time (as a division of day or night), literal or figurative :- cage, hold, (im-) prison (-ment), ward, watch.

keep: phulasso, foo-las'-so, Greek 5442; probably from Greek 5443 (phule) through the idea of isolation; to watch, i.e. be on guard (literal or figurative); by implication to preserve, obey, avoid :- beware, keep (self), observe, save.Compare Greek 5083 (tereo).

This word is most often translated "keep" or "kept". So the spirits were "imprisoned" or "kept" for what?

This should be a "no brainer":Until Jesus Christ had paid the price to free them from their sins and through accepting His sacrifice, receive salvation!

Remember what we read from Peter back in verses 9-11 of chapter 1 concerning salvation?

Let's review:

1 Peter 1:10-11
Of which salvation the prophets have enquired and searched diligently, who prophesied of the grace that should come unto you: [11] Searching what, or what manner of time the Spirit of Christ which was in them did signify, when it testified beforehand the sufferings of Christ, and the glory that should follow.
You see, Jesus Christ hadn't paid the price yet, and we just read that the prophets all looked forward to that time!

And once He did pay that price they were now able to wash their robes in the blood of the Lamb.

Understand, neither they, nor anyone else could now wash their robes in the blood of Lamb when there was no blood, could they?

And so now we see in Rev 5 & Rev 7 the great, innumerable  multitudes around the throne of God who have washed their robes.

You now know where Christ was for the period of time He was in the tomb.

But here's something that really confuses folks.

Every soul, good or bad, when he/she dies, instantly goes to heaven, back to the Father who sent him (Eccles. 12:7).

This is a fact that is little understood because through traditions people think that only "good" people are in heaven.

But ask yourself this question: Has Satan been destroyed yet?

Answer: No he hasn't.

He has been sentenced to death which is why he is called the "son of perdition" meaning the "son who will perish", i.e. be destroyed, die, cease to exist.

But that perishing will not take place until the second death, which is the lake of fire.

Make no mistake, the lake of fire is the second death.

Here is the documentation:

Rev. 20:14
And death and hell were cast into the lake of fire. This is the second death.

Rev. 21:8

But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.
The lake of fire is the destruction of the soul, but that lake of fire hasn't come into being yet.

So where is Satan and where is everyone who has ever lived in the flesh and died, even starting from Adam and Eve until Jesus Christ paid the price and even unto this very day?

They're not here, are they?

And we know that no one, not even Satan, has died the second death yet, i.e. perished in the lake of fire.

So they must all be in heaven!

Yes, even Satan and the fallen angels of Genesis chapter 6 are in heaven.

Now that doesn't mean they are all with Jesus, as are all the saints, does it?

In fact, we know from the parable of Lazarus and the rich man in Luke 16 that there is a gulf which separates shall we say "the good from the bad".

You see, it is documented in Rev. 12:7-9 that Satan and his angels are cast out of heaven by Michael and company, which occurs at the 6th Trump.

So they have to be there, in heaven, in order to be cast out.

2 Thes. 2:7 reveals that Satan, that son of perdition, is currently restrained (by Michael) but will soon be let loose, i.e. cast from heaven, to play the role of the false messiah.

Note: Satan and the fallen angels, the Nephilim (see appendix 25 in the Companion Bible), were not offered salvation when Christ went to proclaim victory to the spirits in prison.

Satan has already been judged to die and the 7,000 fallen angels of Gen. 6 await destruction (Jude), having brought eternal damnation upon themselves by leaving heaven, their first estate, and coming to earth without being born in the flesh.

Thus, instead of coming to earth as flesh and blood beings as God comanded we are all to do. they made their decision to come directly to earth as spirit beings, not waiting their turn to be born of womsn like the rest of us and they will surely perish because of it.

Let's now continue the thought of Peter who just told us that Christ went to preach to the spirits in prison.

1 Pet. 3:20 Which sometime were disobedient, when once the longsuffering of God waited in the days of Noah, while the ark was a preparing, wherein few, that is, eight souls were saved by water.
Which sometime [before Christ] were disobedient, or disbelieving.

Peter is talking about all the people all the way back to the beginning, but gives the example of Noah's time to draw the analogy in the next verse to water and baptism and the ark of salvation.

[21] The like figure whereunto even baptism doth also now save us (not the putting away of the filth of the flesh, but the answer of a good conscience toward God,) by the resurrection of Jesus Christ:
Baptism will not stop you from sinning, but through the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ you can be made clean and pray to our Father with a "clean slate", i.e. a clear conscience.

So where is Jesus Christ right now?

1 Pet. 3:22 Who is gone into heaven, and is on the right hand of God; angels and authorities and powers being made subject unto him.
He has gone to heaven and been given ALL power and authority in both heaven and earth, so that when He returns at the 7th Trump He will come as the King of kings and Lords of lords, and every knee will bow!

Paul documents that for us in his letter to the Philippians.

Philip. 2:9-10
Wherefore God also hath highly exalted him, and given him a name which is above every name: [10] That at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of things in heaven, and things in earth, and things under the earth;
That's every knee!

And He will remain in Heaven until which time all His enemies are made His footstool.

Paul again gives the documentation.

Hebrews 10:11
And every priest standeth daily ministering and offering oftentimes the same sacrifices, which can never take away sins:
There is only one sacrifice that can take away sins, only one:
[12] But this man, after He had offered one sacrifice for sins for ever, sat down on the right hand of God;
Following His appearances after the resurrection He ascended and sat down on the right hand of God, which is where He is now.
[13] From henceforth expecting till his enemies be made his footstool.

Paul was directly quoting from the prophet David.

Psalm 110:1
A Psalm of David.
The LORD said unto my Lord, Sit thou at my right hand, until I make thine enemies thy footstool.
Paul continues in Hebrews:
Hebrews 10:14 For by one offering He hath perfected for ever them that are sanctified.
He tells us if you are sanctified by the only sacrifice that can cleanse sin, the shed blood of Jesus Christ, then and only then can you be made perfect.

The point of all that Peter and Paul have been saying is that our Father is completely just and fair concerning salvation.

Jesus Christ is no respecter of persons and will soon return as The King of kings and Lord of lords at which time another era of salvation will be ushered in, the great Millennium.

To study the Bible is the noblest of all pursuits; to understand it, the highest of all goals.
We pray that with the guidance of the Holy Spirit, you accomplish both.
1 Corinthians 10:11 Now all these things happened unto them {the ancient Israelites} for ensamples, and they are written for our admonition, upon whom the ends of the world are come.

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